Dating 101


1. Dating Rule #1: Don’t Lose Who You Are

Your first priority in a relationship – no matter what kind of a relationship you are in – is to be yourself. To do that, you’ll need to love yourself by ensuring you are ready to date before taking the plunge, as well as having a strong sense of self-worth and esteem.

2. Dating Rule #2: Ensure Every Date is Fun

Not only does trying to make your date happy make you feel good, but it is also one of the first signs of attraction. And studies have shown that when taking someone out on a date, the primary way your date will determine the success of the event is how much fun was had.

Dating Rule #3: Communicate Well and Clearly

It is impossible to have a healthy relationship without strong communication. In essence, communication is the bridge that forms between partners, helping them create a sacred space in the middle ground where they meet in order to foster love and intimacy. Without clear communication, two people who seem like they are connected romantically to outsiders truly aren’t; instead they just going through the motions, lacking the intimacy they require to move forward, together.

4. Dating Rule #4: Be a Strong Negotiator

When communication alone isn’t enough to weather a relationship through stormy times, negotiation skills come into play. In order to work through the issues that arise in these kinds of circumstances, both partners must be able and willing to negotiate. When done with respect and awareness, negotiation can be the key to unlock a shared bright future

Dating Rule #5: Nurture Your Relationship

All dating relationships require tender loving care in order to thrive. Daily appreciation, respect, attentiveness, reciprocity and kindness all work towards showing your partner that you cherish them and value their contribution to your life.



Orlando club massacre: Worst mass shooting in U.S history


I want to send my prayers and condolences to the families effected by these horrific and senseless killings. The only thing the media is right about ,this is one of the worst mass shooting in U.S history. Of course, the media and politicians are going to blame the NRA, when its our own government that allow them to govern their own laws. If you start playing the blame game, you are really pointing the finger at the master minds behind it ;it’s not the NRA. The fact, he is muslim makes it even worst.

As I was reading various reports, and this story still breaking with new details by the hour. While holed up in a bathroom, Omar Mateen texted his wife, Noor Salman, at around 4 a.m. Sunday, about two hours after he began the attack, a law enforcement official told CNN Thursday. After the gunman was killed, investigators walked in the club and seen bodies on top of bodies. Cellphones start to go off at the same time, due to the fact people was texting and sending their last messages to their love ones prior to the shooting. The text messages was posted by the news. It so sad to see the last message of the victims begging for their lives and for someone to help them.

It took 50 people to be killed and 53 to be wounded for the media to oust him as terrorist; but a white man goes in a black church and shoots everyone; he has a mental illness. I wish we can see the truth behind what the media portrays and the government we elected these officials in. This never-ending war will always be due to the racial profiling, prejudicial justice system, and the mass media.

I believe the NRA should have stricter assault rifle bans and lives had to be lost for that to happen. Omar Mateen would’ve purchased a gun illegally, if he couldn’t buy it legally. He was deranged man on a suicide mission. I feel its racial injustice on how they depicting him because he is muslim. If this was a white man, it would’ve ended very differently.

The political debates will focus around Omar Mateen and senseless killings. They will use this massacre to prove their oppositions on immigration and stricter gun laws. It’s going to be about the family  and the L.G.B.T community for 2.5 seconds. It hasn’t been 24 hours, and Donald Trump spoke on the shooting in Orlando.

According to The New York Times, this is what Donald Trump said to reporters hours after the shooting in Orlando. Reiterating his controversial call for a temporary ban on Muslim migration to the United States and criticizing Hillary Clinton for what he claimed was her desire to “dramatically increase admissions from the Middle East.” Hillary Clinton fired back and issued an statement on the shooting.

We need to redouble our efforts to defend our country from threats at home and abroad,” focusing on the threat of terrorism. Further down in her statement, she called for more stringent restrictions on guns.

“Finally, we need to keep guns like the ones used last night out of the hands of terrorists or other violent criminals,” she said, taking up the call many on the left made in the hours after the attack. Mr. Trump, who made no mention of access to firearms in any of his comments, said Mr. Obama should resign for his own refusal to say “radical Islam.”

 The blame will be shifted on N.R.A and the President, of course. When majority of the  House Of Representatives and Congress voted against the ban.This horrific crime and travesty of justice is mere pawn for the presidential candidates seat in  the White House.

Online Dating:4 simple mistake men and women make

Online dating is one of simplest and discrete ways of meeting someone, especially if you have demanding careers and/or busy with raising your family. Online dating was another option to  meet peopl…

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Online Dating:4 simple mistake men and women make


Online dating is one of simplest and discrete ways of meeting someone, especially if you have demanding careers and/or busy with raising your family. Online dating was another option to  meet people. As technology evolve, online dating is at a new high, and it seems like its only option of interacting with the opposite and same-sex.

The 4 mistakes we make when it comes to online dating 

  1. Being dishonest about what are your true intentions:  For instance, you created a profile and you indicated looking for a long-term relationship, but you really looking for a casual encounter. Your perception is, if you tell them you only looking for sex; you will be dismissed.This is how you will meet potential  stalkers, and have chaotic situations;because you wasn’t being honest. You never know, there are millions people looking for same thing. You have to be open-minded and honest to meet the people you desire and avoid what you not looking for.
  2. Not paying attention to the potential signs of a catfish profile: When you meet someone online, they should be a  grace period for the initial meet and greet. One of the warning signs are the tons of excuses why they can’t meet. It is always a death in the family, they just found out they have cancer, they was in some car crash, or they work a lot. Yes, the situations happen to normal people everyday, not someone  that catfishes. One of the most common signs are when they don’t want to video chat. We live in a world run by technology, so there is no reason why you can meet and greet online. A high percentage of catfishing profile are long distance online relationships. Because it’s easier for the catfish to manipulate and dominate the online relationship. You are being catfish, if you are in relations with someone you never met offline, texting is the only form of communication you had with them for month or years, and you don’t need a tv show to help realize that. One of bad things of online dating, anyone can be whoever they want to be behind a keyboard. Its creation of character and they sole purpose to  bring it to life. I know we hear it all the time, they suffer from a lack of self-esteem,love, and confidence. There are millions of people with self-issues and had horrible upbringing;they not catfishing. It’s no excuse to manipulate,mistrust, or break someone’s heart for their own personal gain.
  3. Introducing your children to someone you met online: Did it ever come to mind, he or she may be a potential killer or pedophile? Don’t think because they are amazing attractive, and/or match the criteria of your ideal mate.They aren’t a danger to you or your family. Predators don’t have a face or selection pool on who they prey on. Safety, intutition, and mindfulness are the weapons you have to protect you and your family from these cyber predators. When you meet someone online, its like the lotto. Anyone can be  randomly can be picked and tossed. Don’t plan anything, and enjoy the process of dating. You must learn how to separate your family life from your dating life. It protects everyone involve
  4. Posting half-naked pictures on dating sites: If you looking for a partner or searching for more than casual dating online. Your pictures can tell a whole story or least a mirror image of it. Pictures are your best representation of you,  represent what you want to attract. If you looking for someone to take you seriously, value your assets, and treat you with respect;don’t post half-naked  pictures on dating sites. Your pictures are the face of your representative, and people will react to what they see not know. There is nothing wrong of expressing how you feel about yourself to the world through the camera. Be mindful, they don’t see your intentions or the reason behind the pictures. Remember, this is the internet and millions of people are watching  your pictures through the thoughts of many of eyes.


Yellow and blue eye makeup and ombre lips!!!!!!!!!!!

I know you are probably saying to yourself, I’m too dark or those colors won’t look right on me. I was saying the same thing and whenever i want to change my look. I think of makeup as paint and my face is a canvas, I’m a masterpiece of art in the making.

The things you will need to achieve this look:

  1. blue lipstick (I’m using Nicki k navy blue)
  2. highlighter (use bhcosmetic contouring palette )
  3. yellow eyeshadow(use bhcosmetic 120 color palette)
  4. aztec and dark blue (beauty supply store palette)
  5. yellow shimmer eyeshadow (bhcosmetics pop art palette)
  6. 2 shades of  L.A Girl Pro Concealer ( one shade lighter and one shade darker  than your skin tone.
  7. Nicki K Primer or any pore eraser of your choice
  8. L.A Girl Pro Powder HD setting powder
  9. Ruby Kisses Mineral Powder in Mocha
  10. Ruby Kisses No More Blemish liquid foundation in caramel (semi-matte finish)
  11. Ruby Kisses black liquid eyeliner
  12. Nicki K Power Lash volumizing mascara
  13. tape(scotch tape)

First clean and moisturizer your face, apply  primer all over where your pores shows the most (nose, chin, cheek and forehead area).

Define your eyebrows (click link for eyebrow tutorial)

  • Apply light shade of concealer on your eyelid, under your eyelid, above your lips( if the skin is darker above your lips), your chin, and whereever you may have dark spots, you want to cover up. Use a beauty blender sponge or blending brush, blend the concealer. Avoid waiting because concealer can dry up quickly.
  • Apply and blend liquid foundation
  • Apply and blend mineral powder
  • repeat step one but only use it under your eyelid, bridge of your nose, make a tree on your forehead , above your lip,and on your chin(contouring using concealer) or you can use bhcosmetics forever nude scuplt and glow palette. (click the link to learn how to contour using concealer and/or using bh cosmetic contouring palette).
  • Use a base color on your whole eyelid, I use a nuetral color closest to my skin color, you can use concealer, paint pot, and e.t.c.
  • Use yellow eyeshadow from bh cosmetics, use small taper brush or blending brush, apply the color over the lower eyelid. Make sure to put more color close to the corner of your eye and less on the outer part of your eye.
  • Use that same brush and pat the yellow shimmer from Bh cosmetics pop art palette in the corners of your eyes.
  • Take an angle brush blend in the aztec blue in a triangle motion, lightly sweep the color to the center of the eye
  • Line the tape up on the bottom of your eyelid
  • Use the same angle brush , apply navy blue to the outer corner of your eyes , above the tape area
  • Draw a cateye using liquid eyeliner ( click link of cat eye tutorial)
  • Apply on lashes, lightly use mascara once they dried
  • Apply blush to the apple of your cheeks
  • Use highlighter on the highest point of your cheek , under your eyebrows, bridge of your nose, forehead , middle of lips, and chin.
  • Apply blue lipstick 2 inches from the corner of each side of your mouth
  • Take yellow shimmer eyeshadow dab it on the center of your mouth, puckering your lips (Tip: you can turn any lipstick matte by dabbing eyeshadow over it) and apply your favorite lip gloss
  •  Dab blending face brush into pro setting powder apply it under eyes, forehead, bridge of nose, chin , then blend out.